It is sad to know what happened to your friend Aswani :( But one should not be disheartened as whatever happens in life .......... happens for the best.Someone better must be there for your friend.

Everyone has the right to choose their partner ...... i don't think the girl did anything wrong.She was a bit late in expressing her feelings ,must have said it to your friend earlier.She should not have kept your friend in dark. But imagine if she told this to your friend after marriage then would have been devastating for him.

Thanks Shaby for your views. Yes, a bit late and exactly when everything was in the final stage. And that hurts!

Both made a mistake, he thought and started to make dreams without her Yes,
hope next time he will be in reality and see that he does not commit same mistake which the girl has made ,otherwise he will make the next girl sad.

shabnam you are right there will be someone better waiting for him

Soory to hear what has happened to your friend tell to listen to what shabnam has said some one better is out there never cry over spilt milk just let a cat lick it up move on age is just a number there is more worries ahead in life to face An old man once said "To every fish you catch there is a better one a sea because the one you catch is a dead fish and if you are not careful it will spoil on you" this was told to me by my dad tell your friend this aswani the definition for love is Love is like a rose it grows and it blooms and has a sweet smell but it sometimes fades and when it rots it stinks"

In my past experience, I could say FAITHFULNESS, patience, loyalty and true love in all endeavors attributes to make most all things go well. Sorry, Bes Aswani all girls that are nice and the one that you can keep mostly they are all taken :D. I could say that it's hard to find one now same thing finding a good guy/man. hummm I can really relate to this hehehe. I've been to a nightmare married before but I don't regret it because i had my daughter. she's my angel and I asked her from God. Take your time finding a girl for you. I know there's no such right girl but there's always one for you and so to your friend. Enjoy the rest of the weekend. :*

Part of the problem is we don't get to know ourselves well enough before we get involved in a relationship. Then, many times we jump from one relationship to the next without figuring out what we really want. If one is looking for more of a business-type relationship with love to possibly come later then they should be honest about that. And if one is looking for love ~ romance, intense feelings, etc. ~ then they need to be honest about that, too. Although, it's never truly that easy or black and white. *DONT_KNOW*

Okies :)

Thanks SM for your views. Yes, a lesson for everyone..

Thanks bro for your views. Really nice :)

Hey, thanks SAMY. Honestly speaking, I do not have any worries related to marriage as such. I am enjoying my life and I agree to what you have said here..someone somewhere is made for you ;)

Thanks Anne for your much appreciated thoughts. Yes, I agree to whatever you have said here. We need to know each other well first before beginning any kind of relationship.

Cest La Vie, as they say in french. Life is not easy and meeting the right person is equally true. Take me, I married twice and divorced twice. At that time I truly believed that I found my "Life Partners". It is not a quest, it is something that has to happen naturally. Any person guy or gal that are looking for business relationships will eventually die, unless of course both have the same feeling and they are aware that this is the case. I say, your friend got lucky. Better now that he found out about her real intentions than later. It would have been worst. Now he can move on..........

Thank you bro for your views. Really sad to know about you. And yes, it could have been worst for him*DONT_KNOW*

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well, life is full of surprises and sometimes paradoxes. in love and life we are always asked to gamble or just cringe in fear...

one can always move on though...

Thanks Elmot for sharing your thoughts. Keep in touch :)

Marriage is a big leap that should be pondered upon for a long time. Each person has his own expectation for a life partner but usually those expectation are rarely met once married.

Its been a long time Aswani! I hope all is well with you and your family. Happy Holidays!

Eventhough, we are brave but some factors prevent us from say it to everyone, especially to aprents , If we like someone and or if we have already have chosen life partner> its not a matter of fear, but some thing that prevent us to tell to others. You will understand when u face such situation,
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Hey..what a pleasant surprise! where are you??? really missed you on my blog. Hope you too are doing great. bty, very well said. Better not to expect anything=-X

Thanks Sakhi..glad to see you here again. Yes, I know its not easy to say each and everything but then I think its always better to make it clear in the beginning which I believe, if not done then cause more problems later. Well, I do not want to be in such situation. Even if I am, then I will handle it in my way;)

Dear Aswani, what i say about the plight of that friend with high expectationz.. He should know that expectation is always inversely proportional to satisfaction. So dont expect much from anything, whether it is new or bad or anything,, just let everythng go in its way..Stay cool
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Thanks you Reetha so much for your thoughts. Keep in touch :)

HI Aswani, Very sorry to know about the pains that your friend has gone through. I think there are a few errors here : 1. Your friend seems to have expected too much without knowing the ground reality (he might have read between the lines) which later became a reason for his pains. 2. just because he has a very desirable degree does not mean that every girl would want to marry him, This is because there is much more to marriage than degrees and money .. though these two are very imp factors too but this is not all ! 3. Just because the girl has rejected the guy (or Vice versa) does not at all mean that the one who is rejected is less worth. It might only mean that "you are nice , I am nice but may be we do not fit together". Besides these things.. it is my opinion that there are certain qualities that everyone looks for in a partner (I too had done the same) Unless you find the right "package" (and I do not mean monetary) you want to wait and look for the one "made for you".

Making this decision is one of the most difficult and important decisions of life and it might take a lot of time and "thinking" for anyone to reach there :)

My best wishes with your friend !!

Niharika...You have said it so beautifully. Thank you so much for your views. Yes, Marriage is not a joke. And getting a desired partner..huh, its never easy for anyone. very well expressed and summed up. Thanks again:)

my opinion is that there must be only acceptance in case of marriage and not expectations.

IC..thanks revathy :)

hey all u there.........

I m much worried I am meeting a guy this weekend for marriage only and is much worried how to behave as i had a really bad experience in past no doubts I am a professional with HR background,but i m so tense I is a nice chap from IT industry

Anna..I think your are pretty nervous. Please don't be. Take it easy. Stay calm and meet your guy with a great energy. Have a smile on your face. Just chill and please do not dwell over past. Everything will be fine for you..I know..All the best:-D

Hi Ashwani,

First of all, I would like to tell u that it was wonderful while reading your blog. U have been replying every single person. I have never seen someone so prompt while blogging. :)

And ya about expectations. It a very big and vast mystery. Actually the fact is most of the people are not clear what they really want and rest are always in changing moods. For whom expectations changes like seasons. And very few who have clear insight about their ownself would be able to tailor himself/herself to the desired expectations.

The actual gist lies with the fact that in what ways a person is able to adjust. Every person does not have everything and is not perfect at all but everyone do expects best of the things, but the world is not always having the best for all.

It matters how u make the things best for u not in receiving a best tagged person by others. Girls many time are prompt to keep their expectations are looking around like at her friend's spouse. C wants the best of all the people around her. But in that she herself forgets to know if she is best or not. Boys tend to have the tendency of having a girl who has never been with someone else becuz their ego can't tolerate that. But what matters is the presence. But we cling to past so we are unhappy.

Tell your friend that c has already been past. and according to me he is wasting his time brooding over something which he never had. C was never committed to him. So he should and cant feel bad about the person who was never his. 8-)

Hi Kunjal...your thoughts are really appreciated. I think it does make a lot of sense. hmm...I could have talked to my friend but then he is now married finally. And he seems to be very happy now. Thanks so much for your precious thoughts...Keep visiting :)

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