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One bedroom flat - A bitter reality
Tuesday, December 08, 2009
Posted by ASWANI
Now, this is very touching. A very harsh reality - brilliantly penned down by an Indian Software Engineer. Just got it from one of my best friends. Found it worth sharing. Hope you will like it.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity.
When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true. Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.
My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.
I wanted to do something more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.
Finally I decided to get married. I told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home.? If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.
In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.
My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.
After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.
Every year I decide to go to India. But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India. The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.
After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.
My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.
Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA. I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India. I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.
Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more.
I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.
Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.
Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them. But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?'
I am still searching for an answer..............
As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity.
When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true. Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.
My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.
I wanted to do something more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.
Finally I decided to get married. I told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home.? If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.
In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.
My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.
After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.
Every year I decide to go to India. But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India. The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.
After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.
My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.
Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA. I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India. I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.
Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more.
I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.
Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.
Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them. But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?'
I am still searching for an answer..............
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December 8, 2009 8:24 PM
really this post moved me ..... feeling pity on the person who wished for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM! i pray god that no body should get the same condition of this person..... mostly me !
December 8, 2009 9:13 PM
Thanks buddy for your thoughts..have a nice day :)
December 9, 2009 12:04 AM
excellent post, reality of life
December 9, 2009 1:10 AM
Aswani, this is a very sad story and sadly many people are in the same (or worst) condition. This is something I do not wish for anyone. Life is complicated as it is and we are sometimes forced to make difficult decisions. What can I say...
December 9, 2009 3:10 AM
This is a lesson learnt never regret what you have done in the past thats history live for today hope for tomorrow consider the past a learning curve and just remeber this we don't know what the future holds but we know who holds the future the grass is not always greener on the other side
December 9, 2009 9:44 AM
Thanks bro :)
December 9, 2009 9:46 AM
Yes bro..it should not happen with anyone. Don't know it its true or not but it does make one think..
December 9, 2009 9:47 AM
Thank you bro for your wonderful thoughts..
December 9, 2009 8:50 PM
Great post, Aswani. What a bitter-sweet story and the odd part of it is that it's true. It's happening to many people.
December 9, 2009 9:03 PM
Thanks bro for your thoughts. Yes, its happening to many and its really very sad to know. Should never happen to anyone..
December 9, 2009 9:54 PM
Hi! Bes Aswani, sad story but it is indeed the reality of life of so many people from other country trying to find their luck here. :( Yes, they say that this is a land of plenty and land of free. but it isn't really all free here. you need to make a night like a day working just to have a life that your wishing for. you know what i mean...For me, if you have a good life in your own country already better off to stay right?
December 9, 2009 10:54 PM
Samy, your thoughts are much appreciated. Cannot disagree to what all you have said. Its pity that most of us realize this and still we are doing the same thing. Now, if you are asking me, I would say it very clearly that even if I am earning less in my country, I am still very happy. Never till now, felt like that I should leave my country just for those extra dollars. Yes, money matters but then moving to US or UK..Is it the only solution? No..absolutely not. I find nothing wrong in this country. As long as I am having the required talent, I will be able to make money and enjoy my life, doesn't really matter which place I am located too. And this is what everyone should aspire for rather than dreaming big which often results in what the guy in the above post has to face finally. Exceptions do prevail.
December 11, 2009 1:57 PM
A sad story Aswani :( . It is the harsh reality of life. I wish it should not happen to anyone.
December 11, 2009 2:24 PM
Thanks for your views.
December 11, 2009 4:15 PM
Aswani,
I was deeply touched by your post. The story was so sad.. so much for the American dream. Sigh.. but that's the harsh truth about it and some people are actually living it. It makes us think twice about our decisions.Is it all worth it?
I'm glad you post this up, something to ponder over and over.
@wchingya
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December 11, 2009 4:37 PM
Thank you so much Ching for your valuable comments. Sadly, it is the reality. We all have to pay for it in the end..
December 11, 2009 10:41 PM
Dear Aswani, oh what a condition is this. I cant even think about this. Well, your narration is excellent.
December 11, 2009 10:43 PM
I came to this blog after suggested by Reetha, my friend. Mr Aswani nice to meet you. hope you will visit my blog too
http://cooltribes.blogspot.com :)
December 11, 2009 11:17 PM
Reetha..thanks for dropping by. Keep in touch :)
December 11, 2009 11:18 PM
Thanks cooltribes..Yes, I will visit u too. Have a nice weekend :)
December 23, 2009 12:17 PM
That's the problem with our language. "Land of the free" never meant that the STUFF was free. It meant only that we were governed by a democracy and that we were not slaves or subjects of a monarch. I think that the US can be a good place for immigrants, if they mean to settle here and make it a home. It can be a disillusionment and a hard life for those who only come to "make good" financially and then go back home.
December 23, 2009 8:08 PM
Thanks Holly for your views. really appreciated. Keep in touch :)
January 8, 2010 7:39 PM
I hope that all of us live the most productive and fulfilling life. And yes, not just for ourself but also for our parents :)
January 8, 2010 11:33 PM
Yes Niharika..very well said. Hope you are well. Keep in touch :)
April 14, 2011 2:30 AM
This is called 'MAYA'. We all are in delusion and think this world to be true. This world is a great mirage having water everywhere but when comes to reality no water at all. We also think after death nothing remains. Yes we all remain even after death. There are 8.4 million species in this universe all are wandering in search of happiness. We faultily try to find the happiness in the material things which is a great illusion. The real happiness is within our soul. It is like a deer looking for the fragrance everywhere but in actuality coming out from its navel. The same is our posistion. We must ask the basic question who we are? why we are here on this planet? what is the goal of life? Why we have been given such a mervelous intelligence? What haappen when we die? Whey there are 8.4 million species created in this universe? Who is the creator of this massive universe? Definietly a dog cannot ask this question? Only humans are fit to ask this basic qustion. We spend life in solving the temporary problems of life. The permanant problem of the life is birth, death, old age and disease. We must find the loop hole to cum out the vicious cycle of birth and death and find the supreme destination where we live eternal life with no more birth and death. Hare Krsna