Interesting post Aswani :) .Parents usually don't understand their children , this is the problem faced by many . They think that they are right and we are wrong. I try to make my point clear and if they don't understand i simply leave it .

For me its the matter of my pride ........ as i am very stubborn at times.

I used to find it difficult ...but not anymore :) it seems as I grew they too grew to understand me :) but ya sometimes things are not that simple :)

Hello Aswani,

I can relate to what you're speaking of because I've been in that situation many more times than I can even remember. *DONT_KNOW* I didn't have those problems with my parents as much as I did when I was in management. Sometimes I had such a difficult time trying to make my employees understand the simplest things. I would get so frustrated that I had to walk away before I lost my temper and did something I would regret.

I found that in those types of situations it is best to let it go for a while and let cooler heads prevail. It seems that things always worked out for the best after everyone had time to think things over.

You sound a bit frustrated right now and I know that is not really how you are. You are always upbeat and positive. So, my suggestion to you is; let it go for a while and cool off and don't even think about it. When you feel the time is right, approach the problem from a different perspective and be cool, calm and collective and I'll bet you get a better result.

Hang in there my friend...I promise it will get better. :-D

Hi Bob, thanks for the visit and many thanks for your comments. Yes, I was totally frustrated the other day. I had some heated conversation with my Mom. But thankfully, it didn't go for long. You are correct, I am not like that. But occasionally, I lose my cool when people begin to doubt me and when you know they are your parents..it feels a bit more :'(

I can understand..shaby. It can happen to anyone. But then, I don't think it should be a matter of pride after all they are your parents. But yes, exceptions do prevail *DONT_KNOW*

You sound very matured...thank you Rajlakshmi for your thoughts. Have a nice day:)

This is a difficult problem. On one hand we want to be respectful of our parents and on the other we want to be treated as adults with ideas and minds of our own. If it is an important issue, it may sadly be that you have to agree to disagree.

Thanks for your view Connie. Great to see you here. Keep in touch and have a nice day :)

I've always felt that way before I got married. I tried and tried to make them understand but they didn't. I know that they have good reasons but at some point, I just got fed up and gave up trying to make them( or anyone) understand. After I got married and moved away from them, there was a change. They listened more to what I said after I proved that I'm not a small child anymore.

ok..hope everything is going well for you. Keep in touch :)

I do understand it parents them still believe that they know best and what is good for us however as i now become a parent myself i try to give my kids the freedom to do things and make mistakes and this is the reason why just after i graduate from school i went out to live on my own bro as yourself this question what is the worst thing to happen there lies your answer

Thanks bro for your views. Yes, freedom is very important. I got your point. Have a nice day :)

Dear Aswani, you said it correct. there are many occassions where we really find it difficult to make others understand,let anyone understand what you want to say. But patience is the best weapon..thnk about it
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There're always ups & downs in life, same thing with mood & feelings too. So don't let it bug you esp when you're down. The good feeling will come back.

It's always difficult to understand others but others may also find it difficult to understand us. I sometimes use the KISS formula to solve this often difficult problem....it simply means Keep It Simple Stupid. The more we try to explain the situation the more complicated it becomes. So keep everything very simple leaving no excuse for others not to understand them and if they still can't understand them just move on to other important things as in all probability that person could be mentally handicapped.

Excellent line - Patience is the best weapon. Thanks so much :)

I am so glad to see you here..bro. very wise thoughts indeed. Keep in touch and have a great weekend :)

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Aswani,

As a parent of a twenty-year old, I know what it's like to be on the other side of the discussion. There was a while when my son and I didn't see eye-to-eye on stuff. Then something happened. I realized I wasn't treating him like an adult and started cutting him some slack. Now we're getting along great. I still get frustrated with him but just handle things differently.

I face the same problem with my parents until today. They are very conservative and as you can imagine, there are some things that is very difficult for them to understand. Anyway, I have surrendered a long time ago and today instead of trying to make them understand, I don't worry anymore. They eventually just get it:)

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Thank you Lauren so much for your comments. Yes, parents also need to be understanding :)

Hey bro..thanks. was missing you here on my blog. Hope you are well. Keep in touch :)

Very well said Reetha. Keep in touch :)

i know how you feel. we are always their kids and they got used to taking care of us, deciding for us, and knowing better than us that they forget that we grow up! that now we may know more than they do on certain things and that we also have matured enough to have our own beliefs and decisions.

an example? me and my brother are both dietitians and we have an obese dad! it goes without saying anymore how is that happening, dear.

with adult things we may have our own this and that but still, they are our parents and IT IS A MUST that we respect them. their blessings on things included (like marriage for one). love them as they have loved us...pretty hard on times that they are being difficult but hey, who says it's easy to grow a parent?! ;)

That was really nice..Jennie. great thoughts. really appreciated. bty, many thanks for dropping by my blog. Keep in touch :)

I feel compelled to argue the parents' point of view. Of course they understand you. Probably all too well. And it frustrates them, because their years of additional experience let them see all the potholes and pitfalls on your journey, but they know you don't want to believe that and probably won't listen. You - just like them, when they were young - have to learn your lessons the hard way, through experience.

No one (including parents) likes to be too predictable or too easily understood - unless it's on their own terms. You know, when you really WANT someone, like a spouse or a child, to understand you. Oh, God forbid our parents should've been young, once. God forbid they should've experienced the agony of unrequited love, or ambition, or indecision, or any number of very normal human emotions. Equally horrific is the notion that we are not unique in our dreams, our emotional pains, our - whatever.

Hey, Aswani, you know why they say grandparents and grandchildren get along so well? They have a common enemy. ;)

hahaha..holly. That was very interesting. Thank you so much for your views. I got your point finally ;)

Yes I too have been through such a situation many times... I think on some everyday issues too :) I thin everyone goes through them. The fact is that every person is right in his or her own "frame of reference" . SO they are right from their perspective and we are right from our perspective. Many times what can make such a situation easy is that both parties (or at least one) try to understand " the other's " perspective.

Thanks Niharika ji..hehehe :-D