I love networking and more rightly, I love social networking. Often and again, I have stated the same - Blogging and Social Networking, are 2 things which I enjoy the most. As an avid social networker, I believe its fun and honestly, I have learned a lot from all those whom I have connected with especially on sites like facebook. Now talking especially about the facebook, I have been more active here than on any other social networking sites around.
Twitter...I shall second it to facebook but anyways, there is no denying to the fact that both Twitter and facebook have been revolutionary as far as the boom in online social networking is concerned. Both these provide you with penultimate mediums to let you create, share and grow your network with people around. And no doubt...the success or failure of the same truly depends upon how well are you with the same...in other words, how well do you network? How often do you find time to get in touch with your friends around? How well do you let others to trust you? How choosy you get with your friends? How nice and polite you appear while getting in touch with your network ?
Talking about how well do you connect with your friends and how nice you are or say, how nice you tend to appear when you let your words come out...I am here to discuss one scenario which I had to face just few days back. Well, I really wouldn’t have bothered to share it all here but anyways, I am still sharing it as I feel it would make sense to those who feel that it is quite easy to get away with anything and everything on social sites. Now as I said earlier, facebook is one of the sites which I love the most. I do have a lot of friends over there and it just keeps growing everytime. I don’t know about others but I do value my friends a lot and nothing do I expect in return but there is absolutely nothing like tolerating anything and everything.
Yes, never would have I thought of removing anyone from my network but I had to or I should say, I was made to. Yes, a comment from one of my very good friends on one of my status messages on facebook made me to rethink on my decision to have anyone and everyone as my friend in my network. Honestly, I wouldn’t have cared. But the same mistake was being repeated again and again. Though the message was intended as a joke but it did hurt me and I guess...it would have hurt anyone whose intentions are good and straight. It rarely happens with me but it happened that day..!
Now, yes...social networking is meant to be fun but using your freedom of expression to post anything and everything...what sense does it make? Why not simply stay away from a discussion than to join and leave blatant nonsense? Is it just about mere numbers or Is it more about being useful to those who have been a part of your growing network? Aren’t there any etiquette's of decent social networking and if yes, they why people tend to shirk the same? Why people don’t realize this one simple fact - any nonsense being shared can affect your online reputation and bring a bad name to your social image? And last but not the least - Should you really be concerned about your online reputation ??
June 27, 2011 8:19 PM
Hi Aswani,
Its quite unfortunate that this thing happened to you. I have a clear cut policy about keeping friends. If they have not interacted with me from a long time, I think its time to let them go . Also people who spam and do not bring anything useful to the wall are also a no-no.
I hope this does not happen to you again and the person whom you unfriended learned a lesson.
Have a great day.
Ashvini
June 27, 2011 8:41 PM
Sorry to know about this Aswani, yes friends should always be carefully selected :)
June 28, 2011 12:16 AM
I think even in the complex nature of our world today, the old basics of decorum apply but sad truth is that many people still do not follow them, be it online or offline. Sometimes it feels good to hit the delete botton :)
June 28, 2011 12:20 AM
Dear Aswani,
Thank you for this very nice article. I fully agree with you and have made the same experience. I wrote this as my status on Facebook on 10th June 2011:
"I see myself in the situation to ask everyone who does not have the feelings of a friend to unfriend me. It is fine to have different opinions but if you only want to fight, have arguments and get angry, I think we both waste our time in that. I care about real friends and keep them in my heart. Thank you with much Love."
I like Ashvini's clear cut policy. It's true, we need to be like this. I have also decided to only keep friends. And i am not shy anymore to click the 'unfriend' button. In the last days I did it often. As you can imagine, because of my bold blog writing I have many hidden friends or so-called friends but as soon as i recognize them, I let them go. And it's very nice sometimes, too, I will say I have met many nice people there and made them friends and I am thankful for their Love.
June 28, 2011 11:37 PM
Friends should be helpful in need. A proverb says A friend in need is a Friend Indeed. In community sites lots of friends are added from different sites. So itsites. No one knows their character before adding. So it is better to remove if they don't interact with each other
June 29, 2011 8:05 AM
Good question, remove it or does not? Many of my friends think like you. Recently I had a conversation via Facebook with my italian friend and she told me "Removing a friend is like give him/her importance, I have neither time nor desire."
I replied that if someone offend you for two time without any reason as it happened to me, I don't think twice to remove it from my friend list.
June 29, 2011 3:05 PM
What happened to you is really bad :( some people just don't maintain a decorum.I am choosy about making friends because it is imperative that you trust those to whom you are friends.
I would remove or even block such a person from my friend's list.
June 29, 2011 5:28 PM
@Ashvini - Its ok Ashvini. I think you are following a very right policy. Honestly, I wouldn't have done so as I am really not the same. But anyways, it had to happen as it was just too much...!
@Niharika - hmm...!
@Vivian - Yes...very right!
@Swamiji - Yes Swamiji...I can understand it and I believe that there is nothing like being shy while unfriending. One must go ahead with it incase if it is the best right option.
@Ahsan - Yes buddy..!
@Nicola - hmm...correct!
@Shabnam - I agree..!
June 30, 2011 6:31 PM
There is no dearth of fraudsters and scam artists who beguile people with fake company names leading to fraudulent scams. Take the opportunity to learn to make the distinction between genuine and fake company names.
July 1, 2011 6:18 PM
I do understand Aswani we should be selective of our friends i had to remove one from my friend's list on facebook for the simple reason that my little daughter always plays games and that friend was asking here for her number. Freedom of speech is good but only when used constructively keep your head up my brother.
July 6, 2011 11:07 PM
@David - hmm...thanks for your advice. Do visit again.
@Lawmacs - Thanks bro...yes, right !